The Lie List

The Lie List

Let’s say you got a report card for your child, and it had the letter “D” written next to a couple subjects. Would you? A. Start hyperventilating and text your friend because you’re scared if you call she won’t be able to understand your sobs of “I’m the worst mom ever!” B. Remain calm and remember that grades don’t define your child or yourself.

If your answer is B, congratulations. Please teach me everything you know. Because if someone’s gonna freak out about grades, there’s a good chance it’s gonna be me. (Side story: when I went through the one billion blood tests after my miscarriages, I found out my blood type–A+. That explains so much of the issues in my life. Perfectionism literally is in my blood. But I’m in recovery. Thank you, God. I digress.)

This time it wasn’t me, and I knew this was one of those important moments in friendship–that moment when you have to say the hard thing so your friend doesn’t head down the dark, slippery slope. I stopped her and asked her to start naming the lies, to start saying them out loud, to bring those slimy, spiny lies right out into the light. She bravely did. Through tears she named each dark, bitter lie. I’m a bad mom. I’m not spending enough time with my child. My child isn’t smart. With each lie she spoke, her voice got stronger. Those lies lost their grit in the light.

I remember the lies I heard when I got my MCAT scores back and they weren’t what I was expecting. I remember the lies I heard when the ultrasounds had gone silent. I remember the lies I heard (and still hear) from the scale. And oh the lies that come from being a parent. Not a week goes by that I don’t hear some lie about that.

We have to bring those lies into the light. Say them out loud. Write them down. Share them with a trusted friend. The enemy loves to operate in the shadows, but drag him out into the light and he loses power. Once those lies are in the light, we have to fight the lie with the Word of God, our sword of the Spirit (Ephesians 6:17).

Recently on a conference call for a writing project, I heard a friend say she has a sign in her house that says, “It is written.” These are the words Jesus spoke when the enemy was lying to Him. With each lie, Jesus fought back with Scripture (Matthew 4). When I heard about her sign, I thought immediately of the lie list I had been working on in my prayer journal. It’s a sheet of paper listing every lie the enemy tries to throw at me. As I find a Scripture sword that slices through each lie, I write the verse beside the lie.

My friend Lindsey kindly made me a new prayer journal page with “It is written” at the top, and she said I could share it with you. Whenever I hear the enemy start to whisper a lie, I say the Scripture sword out loud. (Unless I’m around people. Then I say it in my head so they don’t think I’m any weirder than they already do.) “For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart” (Hebrews 4:12 ESV, emphasis mine).

Oh, and my friend whose child had a D on her report card. The D was for developing, as in the child was developing in that area. Her child was doing just fine in school. Ah yes, the enemy loves to take the innocent and use it to get us down. He hits us with everything he can think of. But we have a sword.

When the enemy whispers his venomous words, slay him with Scripture. It is written. 

*Download the It is written prayer journal page or learn more about how to create a prayer journal.

How to Make a Prayer Journal ~ Part 2

How to Make a Prayer Journal ~ Part 2

This is Part 2 of a 4-part series. Go here for Part 1.

If you had seen me on my run a few weeks ago, you would have wondered about the strange girl with her hands in the air and tears streaming down her face. Those are some God-moments I have out there on the asphalt with the sunrise painting the sky in sherbet colors and confetti leaves strewn in the gutter. On that particular morning, I was listening to a message from Timothy Keller on Abraham and Genesis 15. In his message Keller describes how only fifteen chapters in we already have the gospel message. The Lord is speaking to Abraham in a vision reminding him of the promise He has made of an heir for Abraham and future generations who will be as vast as the stars in the sky. Abraham asks God how he will know, and God tells him to bring the animals–a heifer, a female goat, a ram, a turtledove, and a young pigeon. Keller goes on to say that Abraham would have known exactly why God requested these specific animals because Abraham knew how covenants were made in that day. He would have known God was making a covenant with him, but this covenant wouldn’t be like other covenants. Usually in a covenant after the animals were halved, the two men would walk between them as a sign that if he should break the covenant death should come upon him. On this night when God makes the covenant with Abraham, God put Abraham to sleep, and God Himself and God alone in the representation of a smoking fire pot and a flaming torch passed between the pieces. Keller points out that God was making the covenant with Abraham and carrying full weight of the outcome. If God broke the covenant, God would die. But, also, if Abraham broke the covenant, God would die. Abraham, like you and me, was human and therefore marred with sin. God knew that he and all that followed would break the covenant. He knew we would mess up, and He knew He would have to die. God would stop at nothing to be in relationship with us.

Then, in Exodus when we see the Israelites leaving Egypt, we see God’s presence leading them through a pillar of cloud by day and a pillar of fire by night. (See the fire again?) And when Moses is on Mt. Sinai, God gives him specific instructions to build a tabernacle. And what is this tabernacle? It is a place for God’s presence to dwell with His people. There is so much for us to learn in God’s design of the tabernacle for each piece of it points to our Savior, Jesus Christ. But the piece I want to focus on today is the altar of incense. In the tabernacle there were three main areas: the outer court, the Holy Place and the Holy of Holies. There was a veil (think thick rug not thin, gauzy material) that separated the Holy Place from the Holy of Holies. In front of that veil in the Holy Place, was the altar of incense. This is where the priest would offer incense as he prayed for the people every morning and evening. Donna Gaines in her book Leaving Ordinary points out that incense in Scripture often represents prayer. The altar of incense points to Christ, our Great High Priest who right now is interceding for us. God designed a tabernacle and gave Moses the plans because God would stop at nothing to be in relationship with us.

And then in the darkness of night, a light pierced the sky, the Light of the world had come. In Matthew 1:22 we read, “All this took place to fulfill what the Lord had spoken by the prophet: ‘Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a son, and they shall call his name Immanuel’ (which means, God with us).” God with us. God would stop at nothing to be in relationship with us. He would dwell on earth facing every trial we would ever face, wrapped in flesh and bones and the vulnerability of a baby and then a boy and then a man. He would eat and drink and do life with His disciples, pouring into them. Until the day when He went to the cross for us, when He took His last breath. And in that moment, the veil within the temple, a veil fashioned after the veil in the original tabernacle, was torn in two from top to bottom. And prayer was forever changed because God would stop at nothing to be in relationship with us.

We don’t have to go to a priest or wait for one day a year. We don’t have to seek another human to intercede for us. Because Jesus Christ came and lived and died and rose again, we can hear and speak with God Almighty through His Word. The veil was torn, and Jesus became our Great High Priest. Now, Jesus intercedes for us.

Then I saw in the right hand of him who was seated on the throne a scroll written within and on the back, sealed with seven seals. And I saw a mighty angel proclaiming with a loud voice, “Who is worthy to open the scroll and break its seals?” And no one in heaven or on earth or under the earth was able to open the scroll or to look into it, and I began to weep loudly because no one was found worthy to open the scroll or to look into it. And one of the elders said to me, “Weep no more; behold, the Lion of the tribe of Judah, the Root of David, has conquered, so that he can open the scroll and its seven seals.”

And between the throne and the four living creatures and among the elders I saw a Lamb standing, as though it had been slain, with seven horns and with seven eyes, which are the seven spirits of God sent out into all the earth. And he went and took the scroll from the right hand of him who was seated on the throne. And when he had taken the scroll, the four living creatures and the twenty-four elders fell down before the Lamb, each holding a harp, and golden bowls full of incense, which are the prayers of the saints. Revelation 5:1-8

Imagine those golden bowls full of incense, which are the prayers of the saints. Anyone who believes in Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord is a saint, not because of any good we’ve done but because His blood cleansed us and made us righteous. The incense in the tabernacle would have been continually wafting up, over and over and over again. And that’s the power of praying God’s Word. Things we pray over people and circumstances today can impact our children, our grandchildren, and generations to come. The things we pray today aren’t vapors that disappear. They are bowls of incense that keep wafting up before our Lamb of God. In Leaving Ordinary, Donna Gaines says, “You prayers are eternal because they are tangible in heaven.” If we are going to be praying things that last for eternity, we need to be praying the right things. I know how selfish my prayers can be if I pray on my own. If God answered all my selfish prayers prayed without His Word, I’m afraid of what my life would look like. No, we want to pray God’s Word because His Word is Truth. His Word is Power. His Word is alive and active and sharper than any two-edged sword (Hebrews 4:12). My words are puny and fearful and self-seeking, but His Word is life and life abundant.

One of the pages of the Dividers pdf is Revelation 5:8 from the passage above. I slipped this page into the front cover of my prayer journal binder. It reminds me of the eternal impact my prayers have, and it reminds me of the Lamb who died because God would stop at nothing to be in relationship with us.

I know we covered a lot today, most of it being the “why” we pray Scripture, but I don’t want to leave you without some practical steps to continue building your notebook. Once you’ve pulled together your binder, page protectors, and some white paper, let’s start getting the basic order and structure in line. If you haven’t printed out the Dividers pdf and want to do so, you can find a place in your prayer journal binder to put the Revelation 5:8 sheet. Like I mentioned earlier I have the Revelation 5:8 verse in the cover of my prayer journal. Then, I have the Armor of God in the first page protector in my binder. Miss Nan, the woman who taught me to pray God’s Word, also taught me to pray the Armor of God every morning. This might be easier to explain in list form.

  1. Revelation 5:8 in the cover ~ This is a reminder of the eternal impact my prayers have and the Lamb who intercedes for us.
  2. Armor of God ~ Behind this page I have different verses I’ve collected about spiritual warfare. We’ll talk more about that Thursday.
  3. My heart, soul, and mind ~ Behind this divider I have verses I’ve collected about my identity in Christ. I also have a list of names of Jesus that I add to regularly. We’ll talk a lot about this Thursday, but you could go ahead and write “Names of Jesus” on a piece of paper and slip it into a page protector and put it in this section.
  4. My husband ~ Self-explanatory, but this section is all for Matt with verses and specific prayer requests for him. I love to add dates and updates to these prayer requests. This reminds me of God’s faithfulness over time. Also, in this section I have a page with specific prayer requests and verses the Holy Spirit has given me for physical and financial needs for our family. There are a number of verses I pray over our physical home, and I keep those in this section as well.
  5. My children ~ I have a page for each daughter. Some of the verses are the same for all my girls, and some verses are specific to their individual personalities, gifts, and struggles. I also have a page here of verses I pray for our adoption and our Ethiopian child and birth parents.
  6. My loved ones ~ This includes our extended family, my home team, and the girls I am blessed to mentor.
  7. My ministry ~ We will cover this one in depth on the fourth week. For now, you can just put the divider in a page protector.

I have given you just the briefest explanation of each section, but don’t worry we will go through them in depth in the next two weeks. For right now, just put your binder in whatever order you prefer. You may want different sections, more sections, or less sections. This is about your prayer journey, so make it your own. If you’re feeling a little overwhelmed or don’t know which verses to start with, that’s okay. We covered a ton today, but during Thursday’s post I will give you an easy starting point to start adding verses to your notebook. For the next few days, just try to get the layout of your binder in an order that you like. And remember, you can always change it later if you want to. Maybe today you could reread Revelation 5:1-8 again and let it seep deep into your soul, “Weep no more; behold, the Lion of the tribe of Judah, the Root of David, has conquered. . . .” God would stop at nothing to be in relationship with us.

How to Make a Prayer Journal ~ Part 1

How to Make a Prayer Journal ~ Part 1

For the first twenty-five years of my life, there were a few moments of fervent prayer–when that boy with the green Jeep and the Bama bangs asked me for my phone number, when I took the ACT and a few years later the MCAT, when Katrina hit New Orleans two months before I was supposed to get married there. They were mostly selfish prayers, things I wanted God to give me, a wish list of sorts–although I would never have called it that. But prayer felt a lot like me asking with a big please and a cherry on top and then waiting to get an answer.

And then a woman named Miss Nan said to me words that would burrow deep in my heart, “When you don’t know what to pray, pray God’s Word.” Like the Israelites when Moses told them to gather all the gold and jewelry from the Egyptians before they started their exodus, God was using Miss Nan’s words to give me the tools I didn’t realize I would need in the future. Her words would stay with me, but I wouldn’t have much need for them yet. Life was good, and I thought I had everything under control. January of 2009 came, and after a few years of being married we were excited to find out I was pregnant. I remember telling Matt one cold Saturday morning, both of us elated to become parents. Only a month or so later and two days after hearing a beautiful, strong heartbeat, we lost the baby. I was devastated. Over the course of the next several months, we would walk through that whole nightmare again with the loss of our second baby. During those days, I would pull out my Bible to read and pray because I knew that’s what I was “supposed” to do, but mostly I just cried letting my tears spill over the pages. I started have awful nightmares where I would hear the heartbeat and wake up thinking everything was okay only to realize the truth, that our babies were in Heaven and my womb was empty.

It was during this time that the Holy Spirit brought to my mind what Miss Nan had taught me about praying Scripture. I opened up my Bible to where I had been reading in Luke 1. I had read Luke 1:45 several times over the past few months, but this time I grabbed that verse and clung to it. “Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished.” This was the angel speaking to Mary, but I felt the Holy Spirit speaking to me, “Elissa, you will be a mom. I have a plan that only I know, but believe in me. Have faith in what I can do, not what you can do.” I wrote that verse on a little pink sticky note and put it on my bedside table. Whenever I woke up in the middle of the night or couldn’t go to sleep or saw another pregnant belly while feeling my own empty arms, I prayed that verse. I couldn’t even guess how many times I have prayed it. Thousands for sure. It’s a verse I still pray over Lydia and my list of waiting moms today.

Those dark days began a great journey for me, one I’m still on today. God has used several incredible women to teach me on this journey, and I want to share what they have taught me. If you’re interested, I will show you how I created my prayer journal and how God is using prayer to change this fearful, perfectionist, broken person into a woman who gets to see firsthand the power of God. That’s how my journey started. Your journey may be similar, or it may be completely different. Three of my favorite ladies wanted to create their own prayer journals, and once a month we are getting together to add to our journals and encourage each other in prayer. Among the four of us, we have seven kids five and under, so it’s a calm, peaceful setting for sure. (Ha!) If you’re in the middle of craziness, don’t worry. Your crazy is at home here.

To get started you don’t need much, but let’s talk about a few basics.

  1. Binder: I have a cheap, plastic one-inch binder from Target. I felt just fine about it until one of the ladies showed up with this beautiful navy and gold floral fabric covered binder, and I suddenly had binder envy. But a plain, plastic one will do just fine! There’s a decent chance you have one in a box that you can take stuff out of, or maybe you can steal one from your kids. If we were really cool, we’d have Trapper Keepers (child of the 80s here). I digress. Just get you a binder. (Why a binder instead of a notebook? I like being able to rearrange stuff and add in pages.)
  2. Page Protectors: These aren’t crucial, but I love them because you can easily add pictures and stones (more about that on a future blog) and you can easily move things around if needed. Also, they help the paper last, and we want to have these words for years to come.
  3. Dividers: To make your notebook look pretty, my talented friend Lindsey Pilgreen of B&H Handmade used her pretty lettering to create dividers for the different sections of your binder. Click here for the Dividers pdf. You’ll print them on normal 8.5×11 sheets of paper. Some of the dividers are self-explanatory, and others we will talk about in future posts.
  4. Bible: It goes without saying that you can’t pray Scripture unless you are reading and studying Scripture daily. There are tons of reading plans out there. I am a big fan of the Chronological Bible because I didn’t pay attention in history class, and this helps me see how all the pieces fit together within the context of history. Also, it keeps me from skipping harder sections of the Bible. But you can do whatever reading plan you like. Bible Gateway has a list of plans if you need help finding one. I also highly recommend Angie Smith’s Seamless study. (The videos are not necessary for the study, but they are great. If you want to watch those, you can get them on Lifeway’s site.) If the context and history of the Bible overwhelms you like it did me, this six-week study will help you put all the pieces together. You can do Seamless and finish it before the end of the year and then start a one-year Bible reading plan in January. (How’s that for timing?!)

That’s all you need to get started! So as not to overwhelm you, I split this into four separate blogs. The next one will be published next Monday, November 16th. It will be about why we pray God’s Word, and if you’re wondering why one of the divider pages has Revelation 5:8 on it, we’ll talk about that too! The third blog will help you start filling up your blank pages with verses, and it will also help you if you don’t know where to start. That one will be published next Thursday, November 19th. And the last one will be published Monday, November 23rd, and we will talk about adding pictures and stones to our journals. I know that’s fast, but don’t feel like you have to complete it in that time frame. It took me the better part of a year to get mine together, and I still add to it every week. Also, I will say this on a future post, but don’t feel like you have to make it pretty. I have the dividers Lindsey made in mine, but that and the pictures of my beautiful girls are the only “pretty” parts of my journal. I’m not a scrapbooky, crafty type person, so if you’re like me don’t worry. The beauty comes in the words of Scripture.

Okay, I’m really excited! I hope you’ll join us, and I can’t wait to hear about your journey!